Advice about Love from Romance Authors
The authors of the stories in Crazy Little Spring Called Love (order here) sat down to answer some questions for their readers. For links to the full list of interview questions, teasers, and more, visit the blog tour page.
What’s your best advice about love?
No advice, sorry. But one of my favorite quotes about love comes from Willa Cather. She said, “Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” I think that’s a pretty great outlook to live by. Pursue your dreams and follow what you love and miracles will happen.
There will be difficult days, when you’ll have to work a little harder to keep that love. We’re human, with human foibles, and our relationships change as we mature, which means our love will have to grow to meet those changes. Maybe it’s true that love is like a good wine that gets better as it ages. Above all, take time to celebrate that love.
Stop looking for it. The minute you do, it will be there. Believe me. I know.
Listen to other people. Don’t just hear. Listen. Be honest, but not cruel. Communicate. And redefine the golden rule–don’t treat other people the way you would like to be treated. Treat them as they want to be treated.
Find your best friend. Kiss him/her. Still friends? Get married. If not … find another best friend?
I might give very bad love advice. I dunno, kidnap him?
Cherish it. You don’t know if it will last, how long you’ll have it, and what will happen if or when it ends. It is a mystery and a gift, even when it is imperfect. So to whomever, or whatever you believe in – give thanks.
Hold out for the person or people that makes you excited to get up in the morning and reluctant to go to sleep because you don’t want to miss a second with them. Hold out for someone that “gets” you and loves you in all of your unique glory. But most of all, hold out for someone in whom you see qualities you admire.
Trust your instincts. I’m not saying that you should rush into anything if your instincts say, “Hey, this person I just met an hour ago is kind and attractive; I should make sure I ask about marriage,” but I do believe that we innately know what is good and bad for our hearts and souls. If you feel a connection, there’s nothing wrong with exploring it. The worst that can happen is that the other person will say no. At that point? Move on (if that takes an hour or a month – rejection is not always easy). If the person says yes? Enjoy every moment that you have – from the first spark to the boring loads of laundry you may do together to the nights where you hold hands as one of you lies in a hospital bed. When love is real, it lasts. Trust yourself. It all begins with you.